The Love Quiz

I was re-reading this old magazine I recently found, and it has this article called "Love Quiz" by Chip Ingram. I already posted this back in 2003 (in my old old blog), but I thought I'd post it again. You may agree, disagree, whatever... I think it's interesting.

IS IT LOVE? OR HAVE YOU JUST CAME DOWN WITH A BAD CASE OF INFATUATION?

* Love takes time to grow. Infatuation explodes in an instant. You spring into infatuation, but you usually grow into love.

* Love grows out of knowing all that you can about the other person - good or bad. Infatuation lives in a make-believe world where the other person is perfect. Infatuation is happy to know very little about someone so it can leave the rest to imagination, but true love longs to know all about someone - the good, the bad, and the ugly.

* An infatuated individual may be "in love" with two or more people at the same time. True love is focused only on one person.

* Genuine love creates a sense of security and feelings of trust. A person who's infatuated often feels jealous because they don't trust the other person.

* Someone who's infatuated loses his or her ambition and interests in everyday things and daydreams of unrealistic ideals that won't ever really happen. A person in love works hard to better themselves for the other person's benefit.

* Love understands that giving someone space is a good thing. Infatuation imagines love to be intense closeness 24/7.

* A couple in love usually expresses physical affection later in a relationship. In infatuation, affection is expressed earlier, sometimes in the very beginning.

* Love tends to endure. Infatuation may change suddenly and unpredictably.

* A couple in love isn't indifferent to the timing of their wedding, but they don't feel an irresistible drive toward it. Infatuated folks can't wait to tie the knot.

(Adapted from Love, Sex, and Lasting Relationships by Chip Ingram ©2003)